Sex and Finances

relationshipIn sex and relationships, couples and financial problems often lead to disaster. While couples may not intend to turn their relationship into a power struggle over money issues, this is exactly what can happen when money becomes the emphasis and blame is displaced or blown out of proportion. It takes two to tango – both parties contributing to the financial problems in some way, even if unintentionally – and it takes two to work together to solve the problem. Arguing and pointing fingers only turns your once peaceful tango into a frenzied chicken dance. When financial stress threatens your relationship, it is time to look at the root cause of the problem, identify solutions, and join forces to get your finances on track and keep your relationship intact. True love does not die just because you experience a cash flow problem.

Financial Stress and Sex

Brain science reveals that stress of any kind can throw cold water on your once hot and heavy sex life. Moreover, with financial stress being one of the leading causes of relationship tension and breakups, it is definitely a stressor that can curb your intimacy, despite sex having a reputation for relieving stress. After all, it is difficult to get in the mood if all you can do is to think about your financial troubles and fight with one another.

Whether it is financial struggles or some other cause, when sex and intimacy tae a nosedive in a relationship, chances are, the relationship is headed for a few roadblocks, if not some serious trouble. It is not that sex is the most fundamental aspect of a relationship, but when couples fight and sex and intimacy fall to the wayside, one partner or the other, if not both, is bound to take this as a sign that their partner is no longer interested and that the end of the relationship is near. Yet, armed with the right tools and putting forth effort to restore your relationship, gain control of your finances, and reprioritize, financial issues only need be a temporary speed bump on the road to a happy and healthy relationship rather than a sign of the end times.

Overcoming Financial Issues in Your Relationship

  • Do not play the blame game. Your partner is not the enemy – your financial problem is. Whether the issue is job loss, illness, overspending, unexpected debt, or something else, attack the financial issue as a team instead of attacking one another.
  • Stop complaining and start being proactive.
  • Seek the professional advice of a financial advisor to determine the appropriate actions to take to get your finances back on track.
  • Live within your means. Learn to budget. Prioritize needs over wants. Save up for big purchases, Avoid instant gratification. Live on a budget. Remember, those with a SPAM income cannot expect to live a caviar lifestyle, and even the caviar class has been known to go bankrupt as well.
  • Keep that spark by balancing work and your home life. Spend time together alone and with the kids. Leave work at work, or devote certain hours to work at home. But make time for your spouse and family so you can love and appreciate one another and can build a strong bond that helps you to fight adversity TOGETHER.
  • Communicate. You and your partner should communicate openly and clearly about everything, including financial issues. Create a budget together, discuss all bills and expenses, shop together, and never commit financial infidelity. If there is a major expense or purchase on your mind, discuss it first. Surprise debt, especially on top of existing debt, is a recipe for a confrontation.

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